El Sindrome De La Chica Buena Marta Martinez ... Instant

Marta is also terrified of silence. Good girls fill silence. We fill it with chatter, with compliments, with questions about the other person. We do this so we don't have to be seen.

Marta was raised on a very specific, very toxic diet of praise. Every time she put her own needs aside, the world rewarded her. "Marta, you are so mature for your age." "Marta, you never complain." "Marta, you are the perfect daughter." El Sindrome De La Chica Buena Marta Martinez ...

But beneath the polished surface of politeness, Marta is drowning. Marta is also terrified of silence

You are not a vending machine where you put in "niceness" and get "love" in return. We do this so we don't have to be seen

For thirty years, Marta has honored that contract. She says "yes" to every favor. She apologizes for having a bad day. She explains her emotions in a soft voice so nobody feels threatened. She has perfected the art of shrinking.

Marta is the poster child for El Síndrome de la Chica Buena (The Good Girl Syndrome). On the surface, it looks like a compliment: "She is so nice." "She is so selfless." "She never causes problems."