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The film’s most famous set-piece—Mark showing up at Juliet’s door with a boombox and a series of handwritten placards—is, in another director’s hands, a portrait of a stalker. In Love Actually , it’s a masterclass in romantic sacrifice. “Enough. Enough now,” he tells her as he walks away. It is heartbreaking precisely because he has finally spoken, only to accept that silence is his only answer. What elevates Love Actually above the standard holiday rom-com is its willingness to let love be imperfect and, sometimes, undignified.

Then there is the Prime Minister (Hugh Grant) and Natalie (Martine McCutcheon). Their romance is pure fairy tale—the nation’s leader falling for a “chubby” junior staffer from Wandsworth. But Grant’s famous dance down the stairs of 10 Downing Street to The Pointer Sisters’ “Jump” is not just charming. It is an act of liberation. For one giddy moment, power is overthrown by joy. Of course, no conversation about Love Actually is complete without acknowledging its problematic elements. The Colin Firth storyline, while sweet, hinges on a proposal to a woman with whom he shares almost no verbal language. The entire “Colin in America” subplot (Kris Marshall’s character traveling to Wisconsin because British women don’t appreciate him) has aged like milk left out of the fridge. And the treatment of women’s bodies—from Natalie’s “size zero” insult to the casual fat-shaming—feels jarringly out of step today.

It is a gut-punch of a line. In a film full of grand gestures and airport dashes, the truest love story turns out to be the one about a washed-up singer and his loyal, long-suffering friend.

So yes, the film is flawed. It is too long. Some jokes haven’t aged well. But when the opening piano chords of “Christmas Is All Around” strike, or when Joni Mitchell’s “Both Sides Now” swells over Thompson’s silent tears, we stop analyzing and start feeling. Love Actually

The question is: why? On paper, Love Actually is a mess. It follows ten separate stories involving a cast of nearly three dozen characters, from a struggling writer (Colin Firth) and his Portuguese housekeeper to a pair of pornographic body doubles (Martin Freeman and Joanna Page) who find unexpected tenderness in simulated intimacy.

It opens with the sound of arrivals at Heathrow Airport. As the camera pans through the crowds of tearful reunions and tight embraces, a voice—Hugh Grant’s, playing the newly elected Prime Minister—tells us something we desperately want to believe: “Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrival gate at Heathrow Airport.”

The film’s final scene returns to Heathrow, but this time the voiceover is different. It belongs to the grieving Emma Thompson, whose character has just discovered her husband’s infidelity. She does not leave him. She does not scream. Instead, she wipes away a tear, puts on a Joni Mitchell record, and goes back downstairs to her family. That is the other side of love—the quiet, unglamorous, daily work of endurance. The film’s most famous set-piece—Mark showing up at

Love Actually gives us both: the grand, foolish dash through airport security (Andrew Lincoln’s character, again) and the quiet, crushing dignity of staying. It gives us Bill Nighy singing a terrible song and Hugh Grant dancing like a fool. It gives us the boy who learns to drum to impress a girl, and the stepfather who learns to be enough.

But here is the secret: Love Actually knows it’s ridiculous. Richard Curtis has admitted that the film is “the most honest and dishonest film” he’s ever made. The clichés are deliberate. The over-the-top gestures are intentional. It is a film that looks at the messy, often cruel reality of love and says: What if, just for two hours, we pretended it was simple? In the end, Love Actually succeeds because it understands a fundamental truth about the human heart: we are all waiting at the arrival gate. We are all hoping that someone—a partner, a parent, a friend—will come running toward us.

But the thread that binds them all is not love itself—it is the fear of love. The fear of saying it too soon (Jamie and Aurélia). The fear of saying it to the wrong person (Sarah’s tragic devotion to her mentally ill brother). The fear of saying it at all, as embodied by Mark (Andrew Lincoln), who spends the entire film in silent, self-defeating adoration of his best friend’s new wife. Enough now,” he tells her as he walks away

Twenty years after its release, Richard Curtis’s ensemble romantic comedy Love Actually remains the cinematic equivalent of that arrival gate. It is messy, overcrowded, occasionally chaotic, and overwhelmingly sentimental. But year after year, as the Christmas lights go up and the first snowflakes fall, we return to it. We forgive its flaws, quote its best lines, and cry at the same cue cards every single time.

And that, actually, is love. So, this Christmas, put on the pajamas, pour the eggnog, and press play. The arrival gate is waiting.

Critics have called the film manipulative, saccharine, and tone-deaf. And they are not entirely wrong.